All families experience certain shared dynamics, but blended, or step-families, face a unique range of issues that many people may not be aware of. Consciously or subconsciously, people often expect blended families to function like first-time families. When conflicts and difficulties arise, blended families may even attempt to resolve problems in the same manner as if they were first-time family issues, which does not turn out to be an effective approach and can lead to greater conflict and more upset.
When step-couples, step-parents, or step-children’s efforts to resolve the conflict fail, it can seem disheartening; and as their stress and frustration mounts, family members blame may each other or themselves for their problems. This can lead to divisions in the family, which can result in couples questioning their decision to have ‘blended’ in the first place. In such circumstances, it can be beneficial for step-parents, couples, children, or the entire family to work with a marriage and family therapist that specializes in the specific issues affecting blended families.
Susan Kim, founder of Kim Marriage and Family Therapy, has over twenty years of experience in guiding families through the challenges they face. She helps family members – individuals, couples, and children, move through conflict and difficult situations to restore harmony in the home so that they can function better as a family unit. Susan supports family members in communicating and relating to each other in a way that leaves every person feeling respected, cared about, and getting their needs met. Second marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages, which can be excruciatingly painful and costly for everyone involved. Susan’s mission is to give step-families a better chance of staying together, and create the strong, happy, and harmonious home they desire.